Alex & Julia, team behind Aperi
Our story
Built by a couple, for couples
Seven years in, we thought we had each other figured out. Then we stumbled on Arthur Aron's research and realized how many conversations we'd been skipping.
Most couple apps give you a list and call it a day. No awareness of what resonated, no sense of where you are. After a week it feels like homework. We wanted the opposite.
One question a day. An algorithm that learns your taste. Depth that builds gradually, on your terms. A double-blind reveal so both answers stay honest.
Five minutes that add up over months. That's Aperi.
Aperi
Latin: open up
The word is the imperative form of the Latin verb aperīre: to open, to uncover, to reveal. It's both a command and an invitation. In classical Latin it was used for opening doors, unveiling truths, and beginning conversations.
We wanted a name that captured what the app actually asks you to do. Not just answer questions, but open up. To your partner, to yourself, to the kind of honesty that builds over time.
What we believe
Six principles that shape every decision. Not aspirational wall art. Actual filters we run features through.
Relationships first
Every feature gets one test: does it bring people closer? If not, it gets cut.
Grounded in research
The way questions progress from light to deep isn’t random. It’s based on how closeness actually develops. We studied the research so you don’t have to.
Simple on top, smart underneath
A lot of math goes into picking your next question. You never see it. You just get a good question.
No guilt mechanics
Rest days built in. Streaks never reset to zero. Consistency is rewarded. Breaks are not punished.
Progressive depth
Questions start light and go deeper as your comfort grows. You set the pace, the algorithm follows.
Better together
Start solo or with a partner. The app works either way, but the double-blind reveal, where you both answer before seeing each other’s response, is the part worth trying.
Learn something new about your partner tonight
One question. Both answer. Then the real conversation starts.
Get tonight's question