PsychologyRelationships
What attachment theory gets wrong
A balanced look at attachment theory: where the pop psychology version misleads, what the science actually supports, and how to use it without being defined by it.
13 min
Science
16 articles on science.
SciencePsychology
Oxytocin, dopamine, and the chemistry of long-term love
The neurochemical shift from early passion to long-term bonding, and why some couples keep the spark while most lose it.
12 min
PsychologyDating
The psychology of attraction: what draws people together
What 75 years of research says about why we're attracted to the people we're attracted to, from proximity to reciprocity.
13 min
PsychologyRelationships
Polyvagal theory and your relationship: why your nervous system matters
How Polyvagal Theory explains your reactions during conflict, and why co-regulation with your partner changes everything.
13 min
SciencePsychology
The neuroscience of love: what happens in your brain
What fMRI scans, brain chemistry, and prairie voles reveal about how love works in your brain from infatuation through long-term bonding.
11 min
RelationshipsScience
What happy couples do differently
Decades of research and thousands of hours of clinical observation reveal what thriving couples actually do. Most of it is boring.
13 min
RelationshipsScience
What couples who stay together for 50 years know
What do couples who last 50 years actually do differently? The research reveals habits that are simpler and harder than you'd expect.
12 min
PsychologyRelationships
Why most relationship advice is wrong
Much of what we believe about relationships is based on intuition, not evidence. Here's what longitudinal research actually shows.
11 min
SciencePsychology
What research says about happy relationships
A synthesis of the major research findings on what makes relationships last, from the Harvard Study to Gottman's Love Lab.
16 min
PsychologyRelationships
The Gottman method: what 40 years of research tells us about love
The Gottman Method distills 40 years of couples research into practical tools. What the data actually says about what makes love last.
13 min
SciencePsychology
The science of asking questions in relationships
People who ask more questions are liked more and build closer relationships. The research on which types of questions work best.
11 min
ScienceRelationships
The double-blind reveal: why answering before seeing your partner's response matters
When you see your partner's answer first, you unconsciously adjust yours. Answering independently before the reveal makes conversations more honest.
8 min
ScienceRelationships
Can an app help your relationship?
Can a phone app make your relationship better? The research is surprisingly clear on what works, what doesn't, and why.
9 min
SciencePsychology
The science behind 36 questions that make people fall in love
Arthur Aron's study created deep intimacy between strangers in under an hour using structured questions. How the science works and what came after.
5 min
TechnologyScience
How recommendation algorithms can improve your relationship
Spotify knows your music taste. Netflix knows your movie preferences. What if the same math could learn your relationship and serve better conversations?
5 min