🌍 Big Life Decisions
Talk through how you make major choices together and what you each need to feel heard.
Sample Questions
“Who do you turn to when you need real guidance, and what is it about them that makes their perspective feel worth listening to?”
“How much weight do you give other people's opinions when making a big decision, and whose opinions matter the most?”
“How do you actually feel when I make a significant decision without consulting you, even if it turns out fine?”
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