⚡ The Spark Check
Check in on attraction, romance, and chemistry.
Sample Questions
“When you think about texting me, what's the feeling: excited, comfortable, or obligated?”
“What's a doubt you've had about us that you've worked through, or are still working through?”
“What would make you say 'I'm all in' from genuine certainty, with no pressure involved?”
From the blog
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The neurochemical shift from early passion to long-term bonding, and why some couples keep the spark while most lose it.
Questions to ask before moving in together
35 questions to ask before moving in together. Covers money, space, habits, guests, and the relationship itself. The checklist nobody hands you.
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