🧾 The Invisible List
The work that has no name until someone stops doing it. Noticing, remembering, planning and deciding, split honestly.
Sample Questions
“Which task do you do that looks like five minutes and is actually forty?”
“Which task do you resist that you could not explain to an outsider?”
“Which part of carrying our logistics has made you feel less like a partner?”
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Where do you feel most at home with me?
Learn something new about your partner tonight
One question. Both answer. Then the real conversation starts.
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