🪞 How Well Do We Listen?
Questions about hearing each other, saying what you need, and noticing what goes unsaid. Inspired by 40 years of relationship research.
Sample Questions
“What was your very first impression of me?”
“Is there something about me that lowkey annoys you?”
“What's one thing you'd tell me if you knew I wouldn't take it personally?”
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