🌉 Conflict to Connection
Turn disagreements into deeper understanding.
Sample Questions
“When you think of 'fighting fair,' what's the one rule that matters most to you?”
“When we're in the middle of a disagreement, what's the thing I do that actually helps you calm down, even if I don't know it works?”
“When I raise my voice or get intense, what happens inside you, and is it a reaction to me or to something older?”
From the blog
Rituals of connection: the small acts that hold relationships together
Relationship rituals are more than habits. They are how couples create identity, predictability, and meaning. How to build ones that last.
High-conflict vs. low-conflict couples: which are you?
Gottman identified three stable couple styles: volatile, avoiding, and validating. The key isn't which style you are, it's the 5:1 ratio.
Being alone together without feeling lonely
Parallel presence is a sign of security, not disconnection. How to share space without sharing every activity.
Tonight's question
Where do you feel most at home with me?
The kitchen, when you are cooking and I am useless nearby.
Anywhere, honestly. Airports included.
Learn something new about your partner tonight
One question. Both answer. Then the real conversation starts.
Free to start. Available on iPhone and Android.