PsychologyRelationships
The Gottman method: what 40 years of research tells us about love
The Gottman Method distills 40 years of couples research into practical tools. What the data actually says about what makes love last.
13 min
Blog
Research, insights, and ideas for couples who want to go deeper.
CommunicationRelationships
The complete guide to communication in relationships
Everything research says about couple communication: listening, conflict, repair, attachment styles, and daily practices that work.
18 min
RelationshipsCommunication
The grocery store test
How you and your partner handle a shared grocery cart says a lot about how you communicate, compromise, and plan together. It's weirdly accurate.
10 min
CommunicationRelationships
Questions to ask instead of 'how was your day?'
20 replacements for the most overused question in relationships. Each one is designed to get a real answer instead of 'fine.'
10 min
CommunicationRelationships
Why your partner gives one-word answers
Your partner answering 'fine' every night isn't always dismissal. Why people go monosyllabic and the question formats that get real answers.
14 min
RelationshipsCommunication
The long-distance relationship question ritual
Long-distance couples lose shared daily experience first. A daily question ritual puts some of that overlap back. One that works and why.
15 min
QuestionsRelationships
Questions to ask before moving in together
35 questions to ask before moving in together. Covers money, space, habits, guests, and the relationship itself. The checklist nobody hands you.
15 min
CommunicationQuestions
The money talk: 30 financial questions every couple should answer
30 money questions for couples, ordered from easy to hard, plus a framework for bringing up finances without it becoming a fight.
13 min
RelationshipsEmotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy: what it means and how to build it
Emotional intimacy isn't about being nice. It's mutual vulnerability plus responsiveness, and you can build it on purpose. Eight ways to start.
18 min
QuestionsFun
Screen-free date night: 40 questions to replace your phones
40 conversation questions that go from light to genuinely deep. Put the phones down, pour something, and see what happens. Ground rules included.
9 min
RelationshipsEmotional Intimacy
Feeling disconnected from your partner?
That slow drift where you stop really knowing each other is common and fixable. Six ways to close the gap, starting tonight.
13 min
QuestionsHabits
The 30-day couple question challenge
One question a day for 30 days, starting playful and getting more vulnerable as you go. About ten minutes each evening.
15 min
SciencePsychology
The science of asking questions in relationships
People who ask more questions are liked more and build closer relationships. The research on which types of questions work best.
11 min
QuestionsRelationships
250+ questions for couples that go beyond small talk
250+ questions for couples sorted by topic and depth. Pick where you want to go tonight, from light and fun to honest and vulnerable.
6 min
CommunicationRelationships
The roommate rut: when all you talk about is chores
Feeling more like roommates than partners? How to stop defaulting to chores and logistics and start having conversations that matter.
10 min