RelationshipsCommunication
The mental load is killing your relationship
One partner tracks the dentist, the groceries, and the soap. The other helps when asked. This imbalance is called the mental load, and it's corrosive.
9 min
Blog
Research, insights, and ideas for couples who want to go deeper.
CommunicationPsychology
The silent treatment: what it does to your brain and your bond
The silent treatment activates the same brain regions as physical pain. Here's what the research says about why it happens and how to stop the cycle.
11 min
CommunicationRelationships
What "I feel" statements look like, with 20 examples
"I feel like you never listen" isn't an I-feel statement. Here's the actual structure, 20 real examples, and why your brain responds differently to them.
11 min
CommunicationRelationships
Giving your partner feedback without sounding critical
Criticism attacks character. Complaints address behavior. How to give your partner honest feedback without triggering defensiveness.
12 min
CommunicationRelationships
Why texting is ruining your relationship communication
How texting strips context from conversations, escalates conflict, and what research says about when to put the phone down.
12 min
CommunicationRelationships
Talking about sex with your partner
Sexual communication predicts satisfaction more than technique. Research-backed scripts for the conversations most couples avoid.
12 min
CommunicationQuestions
The art of the follow-up question
Harvard research shows follow-up questions make you more likable and deepen relationships. Here is how to use them well.
12 min
RelationshipsPsychology
The myth of the perfect relationship
The perfect relationship doesn't exist. The belief that it should is measurably harmful. What the research says to aim for instead.
13 min
CommunicationConflict
Expressing your needs without starting a fight
Research-backed techniques for telling your partner what you need without triggering defensiveness or escalation.
12 min
CommunicationRelationships
Active listening: the most underrated relationship skill
What active listening really means, why most people get it wrong, and specific techniques backed by decades of research.
12 min
RelationshipsScience
What happy couples do differently
Decades of research and thousands of hours of clinical observation reveal what thriving couples actually do. Most of it is boring.
13 min
RelationshipsCommunication
The relationship skills nobody taught you
Six evidence-backed relationship skills that matter more than love languages, and why none of them came up in school.
14 min
RelationshipsPsychology
Is your relationship worth fighting for?
Not every relationship should be saved. How research distinguishes a rough patch from a fundamental problem.
13 min
RelationshipsPsychology
What does commitment mean in a relationship?
Commitment isn't a feeling. It's a decision you make repeatedly, and the research explains why some people stay while others leave.
12 min
RelationshipsPsychology
Couples therapy apps vs. daily question apps: which do you need?
Therapy apps and daily question apps solve different problems. Here's how to figure out which one you actually need, and when the answer is both.
15 min