CommunicationRelationships
Why texting is ruining your relationship communication
How texting strips context from conversations, escalates conflict, and what research says about when to put the phone down.
12 min
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Research, insights, and ideas for couples who want to go deeper.
CommunicationQuestions
The art of the follow-up question
Harvard research shows follow-up questions make you more likable and deepen relationships. Here is how to use them well.
12 min
RelationshipsPsychology
The myth of the perfect relationship
The perfect relationship doesn't exist. The belief that it should is measurably harmful. What the research says to aim for instead.
13 min
CommunicationConflict
Expressing your needs without starting a fight
Research-backed techniques for telling your partner what you need without triggering defensiveness or escalation.
12 min
CommunicationRelationships
Active listening: the most underrated relationship skill
What active listening really means, why most people get it wrong, and specific techniques backed by decades of research.
12 min
RelationshipsScience
What happy couples do differently
Decades of research and thousands of hours of clinical observation reveal what thriving couples actually do. Most of it is boring.
13 min
RelationshipsCommunication
The relationship skills nobody taught you
Six evidence-backed relationship skills that matter more than love languages, and why none of them came up in school.
14 min
RelationshipsPsychology
Is your relationship worth fighting for?
Not every relationship should be saved. How research distinguishes a rough patch from a fundamental problem.
13 min
RelationshipsPsychology
What does commitment mean in a relationship?
Commitment isn't a feeling. It's a decision you make repeatedly, and the research explains why some people stay while others leave.
12 min
RelationshipsPsychology
Couples therapy apps vs. daily question apps: which do you need?
Therapy apps and daily question apps solve different problems. Here's how to figure out which one you actually need, and when the answer is both.
15 min
PsychologyRelationships
Love languages are outdated
Love languages dominate relationship advice, but the research doesn't support them. Responsiveness predicts relationship success far better.
7 min
RelationshipsPsychology
The difference between being in love and loving someone
Being 'in love' and loving someone are different brain states. Understanding the shift can save your relationship from a false alarm.
12 min
RelationshipsScience
What couples who stay together for 50 years know
What do couples who last 50 years actually do differently? The research reveals habits that are simpler and harder than you'd expect.
12 min
RelationshipsPsychology
Why relationships are hard
Relationships are hard because they're supposed to be. Here's the science behind why difficulty is a feature, not a bug.
11 min
PsychologyRelationships
The 7 types of love: from ancient Greece to modern psychology
Love isn't one thing. From Sternberg's triangular theory to ancient Greek categories, here are the types of love and which ones actually last.
11 min
RelationshipsPsychology
What is a healthy relationship? 15 signs according to research
Healthy relationships aren't conflict-free. Here are 15 research-backed signs that distinguish thriving couples from merely comfortable ones.
10 min